Red Table Talk/ Double Standards

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Last week, the internet went into an uproar over the very anticipated episode of the Red Table Talk, where Jada brought her own self to the table ya'll! We're talking about some real tea sis!

The episode focused on the scandal that aroused after a well-known singer, August Alsina, did an interview where it was revealed that he had an "entanglement" with Jada Pickett some years back while Jada and Will were temporarily separated.

There were a lot of indifferent opinions about the episode/ situation. Some believed that Jada was in the wrong for what she did while a lot of people over the past couple of days have called her out for her actions and have called her many names in the book... Many believe that she's a predator and took advantage of the then very young August.  While others believe that she was in fact not in the wrong and they didn't see anything wrong with what she did. They empathize with her because she simply needed that time to work on herself and during the experience she learned so much about herself... Growth!

While I am indifferent about the situation. I understand both viewpoints. Like why be in a marriage, if there is the urge to step out on your partner. A marriage is, in nature supposed to be sacred to one and at the end of the day you took vows for one another, but at the same time, no one including myself personally knows the understanding that Jada and Will had during their separation. Or in fact, know what they actually allow within their own marriage (there have been rumors that they are swingers).

You may ask, well are you on Jada's side and the answer is no. I don't condone the actions of Jada, simply because I believe at that point I would've just walked away from the situation and flexed on my ex. Although I must say yes, I think Jada was wrong, simply because that was her son's friend! I mean how old is Jada??? I'm pretty sure "Aug" as she calls him, is "young" enough to be her son. That's just super weird to me, but I must say this tea did bring up a great topic at hand...

Can we talk about DOUBLE STANDARDS????!!!!!!

There are so many double standards that I could list for women, like being considered bossy when they are assertive or simply just firm in an essence. I don't know why, but when women are assertive and demand respect it runs the men away. For some reason, it's just too much for them to handle because they're so used to being in control and it fucks with their self-esteem.

And please don't get me started when it comes to cheating and adultery!!! Women get cheated on very often by men and why?? I guess they justify it by saying its simply within their nature. But ultimately, when a man cheats the woman is supposed to take him back after all the humiliation, pain, and heartbreak and sing kumbaya as one big happy family... But let a woman cheat and oh my gosh its the end of the world! She would be slut-shamed and there wouldn't be any second chances! He would never really forgive her and she would be constantly reminded of her actions.

So I ask you, why is it okay for men to do certain things, and when we women reciprocate the same behavior or "energy" as we call it now, its a problem? Like I have literally been thinking about this all damn week because really... it blows my fucking mind! And no I don't consider myself a feminist at all whatsoever, but I have read so many posts from many of my friends online and I am really just appalled at the comments from the men.

Like I said, morally it couldn't have been me... but I believe all the online critics should cut Jada some slack. If the roles were reversed, there wouldn't be nearly this much conversation and discussion on the internet about this and let's be real most of you guys wouldn't be giving your two cents on the situation. One thing I have noticed is the majority of the fellows have narcissistic traits and social media doesn't make it any better because black twitter glorifies toxicity. The majority of men feel entitled and always try invalidate feelings. And no I am not being shady and trying to categorize all men, but me personally... I have had my fair share with these types of men. I say ultimately, it all boils down to knowing your self worth ladies! You don't have to settle at all... whatsoever. Like I am here to tell you to demand respect! You don't have to tolerate or put up with anything less than what you deserve.

Each day, I am growing and learning how to be more confident just like Jada was in that episode. There was no shame in her game and she owned up and stood by the actions she decided to do at the end of the day.

Just like men, women have dreams, needs, and desires too.